Let me tell you something. When you get into the early 20’s of your life, words that you use to describe your life contradict each other. Scary fun. Unfamiliar, but comfortable. You will find that there are some days when you are constantly questioning what in the world you are doing with your life. How did you all of sudden get to this point where you have to plan your own meals, buy groceries and cook dinner every night? Where you actually have to pay your bills for real, and where you might be eating peanut-butter and jelly for a week just to make sure you have exactly enough to pay rent. All of these things have become a real reality to me this summer as I live on my own. During the school semesters it’s a little different, yes I could say I’m “on my own” (whatever that means) but honestly your first summer living on your own, away from home, you actual feel like a real adult. It’s both super fun, and terrifying at the same exact time. Terrifying because WOW I HAVE TO COOK, CLEAN AND FIGURE OUT HOW TO ADULT NOW. But super fun because WOW I HAVE TO FIGURE OUT HOW TO ADULT NOW AND THAT’S KINDA COOL I GUESS.
Being an “adult” (whatever that means) is honestly a whole new world and a whole new life journey. And I’m only on the brink of it, because I’m still a college student, and I don’t actually have a “real” job yet, so I feel like this is just the shore line of this ocean of life.
Living away from home, trips back have become so much more important to me. My family has always been a huge part of my life. The few trips I’ve made home this summer (very few, the 10 hour drive kinda cuts into the reality of that) are some of my most treasured moments. Those 6 people I call my family are ridiculous, and I love them.
I’ve found that you don’t have to be traveling all the time to have cool adventures and find joy in life. Being on your own is an adventure all it’s own. A while there are some days when you just have NO idea what you are doing I take comfort in remembering that NO ONE really knows what they are doing. We all are just trying to figure it out. And everyone trying to figure it out is what makes it fun. It provides lots of topics for conversations at 1AM in the morning while you push the homework and unfinished papers out of the way and talk about anything and everything over cups of coffee until you realize it’s 3AM. That is when you realize what brings joy into life. Loving people and doing life with them.
I’ve discovered that the best way to move through the changing times in your life is this: hold on to what you know to be true and steady, and push through the rest. Push through as you discover what it means to live in whatever stage of life you are in. And when you have good people (whether it’s one person, or twenty-five) you will be okay. Everything will be okay.
“Take your time. Don’t be in a hurry. Focus on yourself and becoming the person you want to be, the person you should be, and everything else will fall in to place.”